Dating man why dating younger men is better
If you are crushing on a shy guy, I definitely recommend that you read The Rules, by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider.
The Rules are a great, step-by-step introduction toward letting a man lead and set the pace of the relationship.
FROM ASTRID & MIYUIf you identify with any of these situations, I will let you in on a secret: the “problem” in each of these scenarios is not that the man is shy or inexperienced.
That's not "dating a shy man," that's accepting crumbs from a guy who is just killing time.The Rules definitely do work within any relationship, with any man.If a man isn’t a good fit for you, The Rules will “work” by revealing early on that you are incompatible.His lapses into "helpless" dating behavior may tempt you to grab the steering wheel. Just relax, take a break with your girlfriends, and trust that your faith in him will bring out his inner Gentlemen’s Rules.You don’t need to bend rules or weaken your boundaries in order to attract a particular man.What he responds to best is a woman with a light, feminine touch; like a beautiful butterfly, she shimmers just out of reach.By not “helping” him date you, you are letting him know that you see him as the competent adult man that he is. If he approaches you and you start dating, trust that he can figure out what to do.Sure, he’d be okay with having casual sex with her and hanging out until something better comes along.But I don’t know many women who enjoy being the good-enough-for-now option.Let’s go through these scenarios, one by one, and note the difference between a true Shy Guy and one whose feelings are simply lukewarm: As Rules women know, we don’t “do the rules” on men.We do The Rules on ourselves, stripping away negative behaviors and replacing them with healthy behaviors that naturally allow attraction to build.